Hi, I’m Cara, deviant, death worker, harm reductionist and sex and intimacy coach.

I am a mutt (mixed ethnicity Mexican, Irish and Portuguese) white transf*g from the desert, ocean and the bay (area). I’ve spent most of my life trying to find the truth about who I really am and live as authentically as possible. I am trans and I looooove being trans and I love trans people. I am neurodivergent and depressed. I am committed to an anti-racism practice, committed to following Black leadership and I love Black people. I follow Indigenous leadership (specifically Ohlone, leadership). I am committed to rematriation and I love Indigenous people. I love sex work and sex workers. I have loved and learned from drug users, in and out of recovery spaces for over 20 years. I practice harm reduction and believe it is a gift of my ancestors and that I honor them by continuing to meet people where they are at with compassion and dignity. I am non-monogamous, and have multiple partners some which are and are not romantic or sexual.

I am co-founder of a collective called Peace Out Loud along with Ira X Armstrong and Johanna Holden. I am accountable to this collective.

I am a survivor with cptsd. My work is trauma informed and guided by all of these things. l want to be deliberate about who I work with and who I want to work with me.

Ultimately, I am a lover boy, and I believe that community care has the greatest impact on our liberation.